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10 PRINCIPLES OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS
by Titilope oluwadare 1. RELATIONSHIPS THAT TAKES MORE THAN THEY GIVE ARE NOT FULFILLING, BUT EMOTIONALLY DRAINING [APOSTLE PAUL SPEAKS OF GIVING FROM THE SPIRIT AND RECEIVING PHYSICAL NEEDS [THIS MEANS RELATIONSHIPS MUST BE RECIPROCAL. GIVE AND TAKE] 2. TO ENJOY YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, RESTORE A HEALTHY BALANCE TO THEM. THE BEST RELATIONSHIPS MAINTAIN BALANCE IN ALL AREAS .WE READ IN THE BIBLE THAT IN ALL RELATIONSHIPS THERE ARE OBLIGATIONS AND RESPONSIBILITIES ON BOTH SIDES I. E PASTORS / CONGREGATION, HUSBAND / WIFE, PARENTS /CHILDREN, RELATIONSHIP AMONGST SIBLINGS OR FRIENDSHIPS ETC . ALL THESE RELATIONSHIPS DEMAND RESPONSIBILITY AND OBLIGATIONS FROM ALL INVOLVED IN IT.WHEN WE TOO MAINTAIN BIBLE BALANCE. SUCH CHRISTIAN RELATIONSHIPS ADD VALUE TO ALL THOSE INVOLVED IT. 3. EVERY ONE IN A RELATIONSHIP MUST HAVE THEIR OWN RESPONSIBILITY, AT HOME, IN CHURCH AND IN THE LARGER SOCIETY. EVERY ONE MUST HAVE THE HEART TO SERVE. NO ONE HAS THE RIGHT TO EXPECT ANOTHER PERSON TO BE THEIR SERVANT OR MATYR. EACH PERSON SHOULD INSTEAD SEEK TO SERVE AS A PERSONAL DECISION. 4. WHEN YOU HAVE FINISHED YOUR OWN CHORES OR RESPONSIBILITIES IN THE FAMILY, CHURCH OR SOCIETY, DON'T DO OTHERS. FEEL FULFILLED .YOU ARE NOT CALLED TO FINISH EVERYONES DUTIES YOU ARE ONLY JUDGED ON RUNNNING YOUR OWN RACE. 5. DON'T BE A MATYR .YOU ARE A MATYR WHEN YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE GIVING IN RELATIONSHIPS, IN THE FAMILY, WITH PARENTS, CHILDREN, THE CHURCH AND EVEN SOCIETY. YOUR LIFE IS NO LONGER BEING LIVED FOR GOD, BUT FOR OTHERS. JESUS GAVE HIS LIFE IN SERVICE FOR OTHERS.BUT ON HIS OWN TERMS AND THE FATHERS TERMS.HE WAS NOT MANIPULATED OR CONTROLLED BY HIS RELATIONHIPS TO DO SO. HE SAID NO ONE TAKES HIS LIFE. BUT HE GAVE IT ON HIS OWN FREE ACCORD, AS HIS FATHER WILLS. 6. CONTROL YOUR OWN TIME AND SERVICE. WHEN YOU NEED TO BE APART FROM PEOPLE INTO THE PRESENCE OF GOD, DO IT . REALISE OTHERS HAVE NO RIGHT TO CLAIM ON YOU AT THE EXPENSE OF GOD, YOUR FAMILY AND YOURSELF. WHEN THEY DO, THEY ARE BEING SELFISH. CONTROL YOUR TIME ACCCORDING TO YOUR OWN PRIORITIES AND ACCORDING TO YOUR OWN CALLING.YOU ARE ACCOUNTABLE TO GOD FOR THE GIFT OF TIME AND HOW YOU SPEND IT. 7. KEEP A JOURNAL AND COMPILE YOUR DAILY ACTIVITIES .REFLECT ON THEM AND REORGANISE YOUR TIME BY ESTABLISHING REALISTIC PRIORITIES. REMOVE ROAD BLOCKS TO YOUR PRIORITIES. EMPHASIS ON THE QUALITY OF TIME YOU SPEND IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS. WHEN YOU SOW QUALITY TIME IN RELATIONSHIPS YOU REAP FROM SUCH RELATIONSHIPS. RELATIONSHIPS THAT DO NOT ADD VALUE TO YOU OR FULFIL YOUR PRIORITIES AND CALLING DE-PRIORITISE THEM. 8. REMEMBER THAT YOU CAN'T STRENGTHEN THE WEAK BY WEAKENING THE STRONG. ALSO REMEMBER THAT, YOU ARE ONLY AS STRONG AS YOUR STRENGTH IN GOD IS.HE IS THE STRENGTH OF THE WEAK.IF YOUR STRENGTH IN GOD IS AFFECTED BY ANY RELATIONSHIP, THAT IS WHEN YOU REALISE YOU WERE ALWAYS WEAK .IT WAS GOD THAT MADE THE DIFFERENCE. THEREFORE NEVER LET ANYBODY PULL YOU DOWN. HELP OTHERS, BUT NOT AT THE EXPENSE OF YOUR STRENGTH IN GOD SPIRITUALLY, MARITALLY, PHYSICALLY, FINANCIALLY AND EMOTIONALLY. IF THE COST OF HELPING ONE PERSON WILL BE YOUR DOWNFALL IN ANY OF THE ABOVE AREAS DON'T DO IT. GOD WILLS RATHER THAT YOU AFFECT MANY LIVES THAN ONE LIFE OR ONE FAMILY THAT WILL DESTROY YOU. 9. FORGIVE AND FORGET WHEN OTHERS WRONG YOU AND ALSO WHEN YOU FALL SHORT OF GOD'S EXPECTATIONS IN RELATIONSHIPS. CONFESS YOUR SINS TO ONE ANOTHER .ASK FOR FORGIVENESS AND LET IT GO.IT'S HUMAN TO ERR .HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS LEARN TO SAY SORRY AS WELL AS IT IS OVER, I FORGIVE YOU. 10. GIVE LOVE NOT IN MEASURE BUT FREELY TO ALL.BUT DON'T FORGET TO LOVE YOURSELF TOO. LOVE NEVER FAILS .LOVE YOUR NEIGBOUR AS YOURSELF THAT IS CHRISTS COMMAND. COMPILED BY TITI OLUWADARE
Titi Oluwadare is the Vision Coordinator of His Grace Evang Min. The Ministeries include , His Gem worship centres in the Uk and Nigeria. Kingdom women{Kwic] in London,Nigeria and South Africa and Gem Commmunity ventures . She is married to David Oluwadare and they are blessed with Children.Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com |