Good Girls Finish Last???
by Shakera Reid-Stewart

So, what happens when you reach that point in your life when you're seriously looking for Mr. Right, ready to settle down and have roots? You know that God is working it out, and all you have to do is sit back and wait. Well, I think I'm at that point. I do know that God will work it out, but this is just an outlet to help me deal with my impatience. I kinda feel like Bridget Jones, (minus the dumb blonde stereotype), and I guess this is my version of her diary. I guess similarities include a nice face, nothing fancy, standing to lose a few pounds, great personality, and obviously something good that most guys don't know what they're missing. This is my take on me.

I woke up one morning and apparently men had this idea that I was some unattainable being who needed a man to help me to get to know my true self. Growing up, I never considered myself to be someone who men would want to flock to. I was good "friend" material. Of course, the better part of my life was spent with someone that I wasn't meant to be with. Maybe I was so in to him that I just never noticed. What a pity! My group of friends always prided ourselves on being "different" from most girls. High moral standards, religious, intelligent, ambitious, and not to mention, good looking. I go out, or go to work, and these traits seem to be confirmed by the men I encounter. Unfortunately, the men that I encounter are not relationship material. I am tired of hearing how disappointed they are that a woman like me is "going to waste" because people can't believe that I don't have a man. Well, if I'm so great, where is my Mr. Right? Where is my Prince Charming?

How many people know what it feels like to be alone during the holidays? I love Christmas -even the commercial aspect of it. I love gazing at the lights, going to church on Christmas morning, opening and giving gifts, going to family gatherings, and doing all the activities that make Christmas what it is. What could be better? I think that I would love to share it with someone special. Let's not even get started on the New Year.

When you have so much to offer, but you haven't been given the opportunity to do it, it feels a bit overwhelming. I love myself too much to settle for an unworthy person, but at times I do feel the loneliness creeping on me. I pray about it constantly and it keeps me from slipping up. That being said, what is the moral of the story? This one has a strange twist. What could be worse than being alone at the holidays? Believe it or not, there is something worse. Being with someone you love and still feeling like you're alone. Been there, done that and I'm not going back.

Lesson Learned: Good girls may finish last, but we will eventually finish best. We just need to be patient and wait on the Lord. In the meanwhile, stick with friends that uplift you, enjoy your singleness. Travel, try new things, and keep yourself occupied. It may not seem that cut and dry, but it is often the times when we are not looking that love finds us first.

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Shakera Reid was born in Kingston, Jamaica and raised in Miramar, Florida. Her passion in life is counseling and educating youth. Hobbies include reading, writing and watching movies. Her hope is to encourage others through her writing and to help them in their Christian walk.

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