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Do You Struggle With Anger or Know Someone That Does?
by Filoiann Wiedenhoff I want to encourage you that if you or you know someone who struggles with anger there is hope. One of the main common issues people in general have is that we have these inner struggles that we feel we have to handle by ourselves either because of shame, guilt, fear etc. We are afraid to expose our struggle for fear of what people may think of us or perhaps that we might be judged. I am no different. I have had those same thoughts cross my mind more than once. Being a pastor's wife, I have to look at myself soberly every day to check myself to see where I am at with God, and with myself. Am I taking care of my responsibilities at home, with my husband and my children? Am I being a good or bad example to our family, friends and church members? There's a responsibility that comes with being a pastor's wife that isn't in the bylaws but is there prevalent just the same. I'm only sharing this because I am not perfect and I have struggled with anger at one time or another. I've been told that I have a "Samoan Temper" which means, that I'm the nicest person you will ever want to meet but once you cross the line Look out! I remember one early morning I had to take my daughter to church to go to camp. I had told her more than twice to have her things ready and packed the night before so she would be ready to go the next morning. Well, she didn't listen and the next morning she was flying around the house looking for this and that and because of her disobedience she almost missed her bus. Needless to say I lost it. I blue a gasket and shouted at the top of my lungs. "I told you last night." It wasn't a pretty sight, and I felt terrible about how mad I got. It wasn't a conscience thing, I just lost it. I felt terrible though and apologized to my daughter on the way to take her and she apologized for not listening but was glad I asked her for forgiveness. What made matters worse was what my son told me the next day. My son's neighbor friend told my son, "Your mom was really mad this morning, we could hear her clear across the street!" I quickly remembered that when I was shouting I was standing right in front of an opened window and the whole neighborhood could hear me. I was so embarrassed and felt very small. I know that was a check from the Lord to watch my anger and I have taken steps to guard myself from going off from that day forward. I am thankful my husband who is also my pastor and counselor was able to give me some words of advice, encouragement and accountability. I wanted to bear my soul to encourage you that anger can happen to anyone at any time in any situation but left un-dealt with can be cause for concern. If you or someone you know struggles with anger please know that you are not alone and that it can be resolved. I put together some advice and steps to help give you direction and guidance in my new article called "Dealing with Anger" which is posted on my website. Please check it out. Remember that education is the key and having understanding is wise. So find out more info on this subject and copy my article "Dealing with Anger" for your reference. Filoiann M. Wiedenhoff is a pastor's wife,work at home mom, Womans Biblical Counselor, Bible Teacher and Writer. View her website for more articles http://filoiannwiedenhoff.com/ Article Source: http://www.faithwriters.com |