How to Not Divorce Your Spouse
by Angie Lewis 9/30/2010 / Marriage
How not to divorce your spouse is fairly simple when you put your mind to it. All you really have to do is start basing your marriage on tried and true principles rather than how you are feeling. We can choose to love our spouse until death do us part just like we can choose to not divorce our spouse. God gives us free willwe are in control of our destiny.
Did you know that the number one reason couples get divorced is because they can't get alongthe courts call it "irreconcilable differences" but what it really should be called is "selfishness". Irreconcilable differences is when both husband and wife control and boss one another, while neither cares about giving in or doing what is right, for if they did they would choose to love with sincerity rather than dissimulation. (Romans 12:9)
Loving someone with sincerity does not mean you are going to feel any different than you do now, in fact real love takes conviction, honesty, and selfless action! Sincere love means you will do the right thing according to the Master designer of marriagethat's all it means. Doing what's right is love! Love is a choice. Do you think Christ wanted to suffer and die? Of course notHe did what the Father told Him to doHe sacrificed His life for our life.
This godless world is full of silly ideas and beliefs that reinforce contrary, argumentative and lustful behavior for couples to base their marriage upon. If we choose to let the world in, it will easily come aboard, spreading falsehood within our minds and in our hearts. Most couples are choosing what they see and hear in the world to support their marriage on. Ridiculous TV shows and Hollywood movies especially, all depict broken marriages and rebellious teenagers. If you like political correctness and want to be just like the majority than carry on with your divorce. God has given you free will and you can do whatever you want with your life, at this moment.
But if you value your marriage and your heart is convicted to work on healing and restoration of your marriage, then by all means, choose Godly correctness and be an upright example to all those marriages out there who are relying on society to tell them how to behave in their marriage. You don't have to ever step foot in a brick and mortar church to choose Godly correctness for your life because you are the church! Godly correctness is a lifestyle choice because choosing Christ is a choice.
God designed and established marriage, so then don't you think His principles work best for marriage? Your marriage belongs to God, why give it to the world? It's your choiceyou are in control. You can be like 90% of the population who give up and give into the world, or you can choose to do what's right by bringing Godly principles into your marriage and save your marriage from divorce. And this is how to NOT divorce your spouse.
Therefore whosoever heareth these sayings of mine, and doeth them, I will liken him unto a wise man, which built his house upon a rock. And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell not: for it was founded upon a rock. And every one that heareth these saying of mine, and doeth them not, shall be likened unto a foolish man, which built his house upon the sand: And the rain descended, and the floods came, and the winds blew, and beat upon that house; and it fell: and great was the fall of it. (Matthew 7:24-27)