Why Would Your Christian Spouse Cheat?
by Angie Lewis 3/14/2011 / Marriage
Ok, so you read about all the signs of a cheating spouse. You have obsessed greatly over the cheating spouse for months now, unable to take care of anything else. You have accessed online chat logs; cell phone records and searched high and low for social network passwords. And you have a pretty good idea that your spouse is cheating, so now what do you do?
What I am about to tell you may alarm some of you because it goes against everything else you have read. But knowing that your spouse is cheating is not the core issue here. Although, of course it is a problem because it hurts deeply to know your spouse is cheating, and you can't seem to shake off the images of your spouse with someone else, but the main issue here is what is in the heart of the cheater? Why would your spouse, who claims to be a Christian, cheat? That seems odd? How does that happen?
First off let me tell you that you are not alone. Thousands of alleged Christians, who go to church, raise families and seem like good people are cheating on their spouses. What is going on with Christianity in society today? I'll tell you what is going on through what has already been foretold in scripture. God knew that in the last days there would be scoffers and mockers of the Word. Most Christians today listen to the Word of God being preached to thm and, they read about it, but they don't do what it says!
Understand that "going to church" does not mean that a person has a personal growing relationship with Jesus Christ. Going to church does not mean we are saved. Going to church does not mean we are automatically given Christ's grace when we sin. And going to church does not mean we are faithful people or even believe in Jesus Christ as our personal Savior. Unfortunately, there are some people go to church to appease their spouses, or to look good to friends, family and neighbors. And some people are even convinced that just by going to church saves them!
But, beloved, remember ye the words which were spoken before of the apostles of our Lord Jesus Christ; How that they told you there should be mockers in the last time, who should walk after their own ungodly lusts. These be they who separate themselves, sensual, having not the Spirit. (Jude 18-19)
A Sincere Christian has the Spirit of Christ within him or her and therefore they will have a difficult time doing anything against the standards of God, unless they have backslid, which is also talked about in scripture. If your cheating spouse is truly repentant of the sin they committed against the marriage they will seek redemption and forgiveness, and turn away from the sin and sin no more. They will truly want to walk in the ways of Jesus Christ and do God's will! But, if your spouse is not truly repentant but is just putting on a good show for you then they will eventually cheat again and again and again.
Christianity is a lifestyle and is shown in how a person lives their life. Those who have sex outside of their marriage are not Christian. Scripture lets us know a lot about scoffers and mockers because these types are filled with worldliness, pride, lust, and greed. They may not go around mocking or scoffing at God's Word out loud in public, but in their heart they don't do what God says. They live by their own standards and understanding. By their fruits ye shall know them.
FROM whence come wars and fighting's among you? Come they not hence, even of your lusts that war in your members? Ye lust, and have not: ye kill, and desire to have, and cannot obtain: ye fight and war, yet ye have not, because ye ask not. Ye ask and receive not, because ye ask amiss, that ye may consume it upon your lusts: Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God. Whosever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. (James 4:1-4)
The bottom line is Christians want to be pampered in their Christianity and they justify reasons how their sinning lifestyle somehow fits into scripture. But the truth of the matter is, no matter how terrible it sounds, those who are not walking in the ways of Christ will not inherit the kingdom of heaven. When we live as if there is no Creator or Spirit of Christ we do ourselves a huge injustice. We should stop deceiving ourselves and get right with God before it is too late.
Ye shall know them by their fruits. Do men gather grapes of thorns, or figs of thistles? Even so every good tree bringeth forth good fruit; but a corrupt tree bringeth forth evil fruit. A good tree cannot bring forth evil fruit, neither can a corrupt tree bring forth good fruit. Every tree that bringeth not forth good fruit is hewn down, and cast into the fire. Wherefore by their fruits ye shall know them. (Luke 6:43-44)