How to Find a Christian Mate
by Frank King 8/01/2011 / Relationships
I am not presenting this as a recipe for how to find a Christian mate. That would be way beyond the scope of this article. But I do want to offer some words of encouragement in this area. Why? Because I often hear Christian women express their lifelong agony of trying to find a godly mate. "All of the good men are already taken," I hear some of the Christian women say.
As you can see from the title of this post, I am emphasizing a Christian mate. As a Christian, you have a much better chance of living a life that pleases the Lord while you are dating if your mate is also a Christian. That's because each of you is more likely to value the other person's commitment to trying to live a godly life. It is a struggle in the flesh to spend time alone with someone whom you love and still try to behave yourself before the Lord, if you know what I mean.
Here is the main point I want to make in this article: In your efforts to find a godly mate, don't preoccupy yourself with trying to find a godly mate. Rather, make serving God your priority. "Seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness; and all these things shall be added unto you," Jesus told His disciples (Matthew 6:33). He was explaining to them that they should not dwell on their temporal needs. Rather, they should focus on pleasing God, and He will supply their needs. That principle also works for a person interested in Christian dating. In light of this principle, let me share a couple of important secondary points:
1. When you pray to God for a godly mate, and make the kingdom of God your priority, you don't have to spend your every minute looking for that special someone. The truth is, God can hook you up with the person He has for you by bringing the two of you together at the dumpster in the apartment complex! Perhaps some of you say I could have come up with something better than that, and it's true. But my point is that God can answer your prayer for a Christian mate while you are going through your daily routine.
2. God can fix any apparent shortage of godly mates. For instance, there are many more Christian single women than Christian single men. But God's hand is not tied by that reality. He can save and totally change someone just for you. When my wife and I started dating, I was not a Christian and neither was she. One thing in her favor was that she did attend church weekly, which I did not. Anyway, she prayed for me and with time God saved me, and called me to preach the gospel, which I have been doing the past 30 years. That's the awesome God we serve.
If you are looking for a godly mate, I hope you find some encouragement in what I have said. If this article does not apply to you, perhaps you know someone you can e-mail this to and who would benefit from this content. In summary, pray to God for a Christian mate, make serving Him your priority, and trust Him to give you the desire of your heart.
Copyright 2011 by Frank King. All rights reserved.