Myths & Realities about Change
by Melissa Martin 10/31/2011 / Christian Living
Myths about Change (or excuses not to change):
Other people in my life need to change, not me.
Changing takes too much energy.
Life would be smoother if my partner or spouse would change his/her
If only my children would change then my stress would be reduced.
My supervisor and coworkers need to change, not me.
I'm too old to change because I'm set in my ways.
I need to know the cause of the problem before I can make changes.
Stubborn people can't change.
If I change, others will take advantage of me.
Realities about Change:
You cannot change other people; you can only change yourself. When you change, you will be a catalyst and influence others to change (if they want to
Unresolved problems usually require more energy then problem-solving.
Change in relationships involves cooperation, commitment, and compromise.
People are in a constant state of change in various degrees.
Effective change consists of appropriate decision-making skills and choices.
Sometimes a significant change involves the ability to take a risk after
thoroughly assessing and evaluating the situation. Consider consequences &
rewards. What is the payoff for making changes?
Being aware of the dynamics of the change process promotes understanding.
Melissa writes about the God and human connection and condition.