DO NOT LET FEAR AND ANXIETY GET THE BEST OF YOU IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
by Stan Popovich 4/27/2007 / Relationships
It can be tough to manage your fears and anxieties while in a relationship. Maintaining a relationship is tough enough let alone having to deal with your anxieties. As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions on what to do in managing your fears and anxieties while being in a relationship.
Learn as much as you can in managing anxiety and depression. There are many books and information that will educate you on how to deal with fear and anxiety. Share this information with the person who is struggling. Education is the key in finding the answers your looking for in managing your fears. In addition, be understanding and patient with the person struggling with their fears. Dealing with depression and anxiety can be difficult for the person so do not add more problems than what is already there.
Communication is the key in a relationship. Do not assume anything. When encountering stressful situations, always remember to get all of the facts of the given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent us from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions. By focusing on the facts, a person can rely on what is reality and what is not.
Remember take a deep breath and try to find something to do to get your mind off of you anxieties and stresses. A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper, watch TV, play on the computer or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things. This will distract you from your current worries.
Challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make you feel lonely or depressed, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense. For example, some people may think that if they fail in their current relationships then they will always be alone. This is not true. Even if your alone today doesn't mean that you will be alone all the time. No one can predict the future with one hundred percent accuracy.
A technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that make us feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel depressed, open up your small notebook and read those statements.
Sometimes, it helps to be able to talk to someone about the anxieties in our relationships. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.
Dealing with the fears and anxieties of a relationship can be sometimes be overwhelming. It takes persistence and a lot of practice to be able to manage our fears. Remember that all you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and take things in stride.
Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For info go to: http://www.managingfear.com