This book is about child sexual molestation and the road to healing.
My recommendations for healing would be to seek assistance from a trusted Christian Counselor, support group or Counseling. The Bible is also a great way to heal.
The apostle Paul tells us in Philippians to press on.
In order to completely heal you must forgive. You must forgive those who have harmed you or hurt you or your loved ones for Jesus forgave us.
Watch and Pray.
There are wolves in sheep clothing as well so beware, be alert, be sober minded.
This book reveals that Tweety as well as ourselves are imperfect people; and she is in the process of healing.
This book is designed to aid those with pain or painful pasts and to go on a journey of their own.
Tweety appreciates and appreciate every spiritual leader past and present who has ever been placed in her life and is thankful that God has kept her covered by the many prayers of her spiritual leaders.
The names have been changed in this book in order to protect those still struggling with the fear of exposure.
Tweety is thankful for her husband and daughter who allowed her to expose details about their lives.
There is a journal as well for each reader to write their own experiences such as happy memories, unhappy memories and at the end of the journal are nine pages for each reader to write notes of their personal roads to healing.
What makes our lives so significant on this earth is the fact that everything has a purpose.
She discovered that life's journey is designed to be a victorious journey, in spite of everything. Being healed from depression, low self-esteem, the disease of pleasing people, marital and family problems, and the stigma of abuse and molestation is what compelled her to write about her life. Everyone goes through pain at some point and time in their lives.
In order to be in healthy relationships and have healthy attitudes about life, many of our past issues need to be dealt with and then we can be on the road to healing.
It is always good to acknowledge pain and face the hurt. All pain matters because each individual matter. Pain can be something such as a disapproving look, but if it hurts then it is very significant and it is worth dealing with.
Tweety was able to forgive and release the person to God, in spite of their denial.
Many times people carry hurtful scars into their adult lives without ever realizing the impact it has on how they handle life and relationships. Pain can lead to a maturing process towards positive change. She asks God to show her what she needed to learn in order to help her continue to grow and move forward in life instead of finding herself struck all the time and not moving forward.
Acknowledgement of hurt and anger is actually a positive start towards the healing journey and sometimes it takes courage to face pain.
Tweety held on to the baggage of a painful life of sexual abuse growing up. The difficult part of her life was facing the pain.
Are there some things that bother you from your childhood?
She wanted to understand why her granddaddy sexual abused her.
She discovered her granddaddy as a pedophile after she read and studied the characteristics of such. Pedophiles are adults who engage in sexual activities through contact with children. They use friendship, love, and trust to deceive.
The responsibility of adults is to display responsible and healthy behavior towards children.
Any type of abuse can lead to low self-esteem, depression and deeper issues for some victims.
A child can not seduce an adult who understands their proper role and responsibility to a child.
Tweety wanted to matter so much she thought about the possibility of saying something out of desperation to try and make up with her abuser, Pastor Jacobs; this is how much she felt about being important.
Understanding the mindset of Pastor Jacobs and her Granddaddy helped her to resolve a lot of guilt and allow her to begin the healing process. Pedophiles find ways to be around children as often as possible even though most people who work around children are not pedophiles. Pedophiles blend in with the mixture of morally upright people and are hard to weed out.
Children are raised by their parents and grown up and become parents as well. They end up following a lot of the same ways, traditions, and habits taught them.
She felt like she was loving her mother and daddy more than they were loving her. They didn't want granddaddy to go to jail. Deep in her subconscious, she didn't feel like granddaddy paid for his wrong doing. She had to live with this and it affected her even though they never saw him for many years.
Thousands of victims just walk away from the situation and carry a lifetime of scars with them.
Every time she kept silence, she left an open door for the person who needed to be stopped. She gave them the opportunity to keep on doing it to someone else.
You can't care about the abuser more than you love yourself and a world full of other innocent victims.
God never intends for people to be your total source. Each person has within them the power to seek wisdom from God personally. God often works through people, but you have to be careful to ensure that people are not your total source. Your main source should be God. She has respect for the spiritual leaders who God has placed in her life.
God knew her as well as all of us before we were formed in our mother's womb and He called us here with a divine purpose and destiny.
You have to believe and have faith in God for yourself.
Everything that happens in life has a reason. It's about choices, consequences and lessons.
Rape is an act of aggression and is one of the most violent and dehumanizing forms of human abuse. A rapist may sexually assault, any woman regardless of age, appearance, social status or race.
I would like to add that you have to even talk to and make your young boys and smaller boys aware of this as well.
She grew up in a black Holiness Church most of her life. As children growing up in this church, they kept each other secrets of incest, rape, physical abuse, and pedophilia activities committed by family and some of the church leaders.
There's a fine line between serving God and being controlled by religious traditions.
There is a difference between being religious and righteous.
A church is only as strong and wise as its leaders. She has great respect for the people of God.
She had given up on Church for many years until one day she learned to listen to her inner voice at home all alone in her room.
The Holy Spirit is our Guide, Leader and Present Help.
She respects and appreciate every spiritual leader past and present who has ever been placed in her life and is thankful that God was keeping her covered by the many prayers of her spiritual leaders.
Arteria Stevens sent me a free copy of her books for review.
"Tweety" Arterial Stevens is the author of Don't Touch Me Volume 1. She was raised in a Black Holiness Church and raised in the projects of Atlanta, Georgia. Wounded throughout her child hood by sexual abuse, facing depression and low self-esteem.
Facing her pain will allow her to heal, move beyond unforgiveness, become a better person and live a better life.