"I'd rather live in the home of a sinner, than to live with a Christian! God doesn't love me, and as soon as I'm able, I'm leaving everything from my childhood behind."
Wow! What a statement. My eyes were glued to my computer screen, as I continued to read this young man's email. I felt myself becoming more and more desperate. Not for myself, but for this child, and the hundreds of thousands of other children, that are lead to the depths of hell, by their own parents.
"My entire childhood was a nightmare, I constantly walked on eggshells, just waiting for what I'd done wrong next. Nothing I did was ever good enough, and something as small as not drying a glass, resulted in another beating. I can't count the Sundays I'd listen to my dad preach, and know that I never wanted to grow up and be like him. I didn't want to serve a God who makes kids like me, feel so stupid and unworthy of love. My friend's parents might have been sinners, but at least they weren't terrified of their fathers." You speak of a God of love, who forgives Sins and brings comfort, yet all he has ever brought me was pain both physically and mentally."
I felt the tears begin to fall down my face, another child lead astray by a father who used God as his excuse to abuse his son. I want all children, including the young man who sent me the email, to know that God had no part in the abuse your father chose to inflict on you. God does not demand that a child is abused, in fact he makes it clear that abuse is a sin. Children have a sacred place in the heart of our Lord, and God makes it clear that anyone who inflicts harm on a child, will endure his wrath.
Let's look at what the Bible says about disciplining children:
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: But a child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame
Proverbs 13:24 He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.
Proverbs 23:13-14 Withhold not correction from a child: for if thou strike him with the rod, he shall not die. Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and deliver his soul from hell.
God deems loving discipline critical to the upbringing of children. However God makes it clear that parents are to follow God's instruction. In fact, Hebrews 12, tells us that God only disciplines the ones he loves. God loves us so much, that when we do wrong, he instills discipline from his own rod upon us. God set the example for us as parents. He instills in us, that the rod of correction is used to steer the heart of a child toward Christ Jesus, and to lead them to the foot of the cross. It was not designed to make you worship and revere your father. I want you to understand, God never instructed your father to beat, and belittle you for something as petty as not drying a glass. There are so many children that are abused and mistreated, and as hard as it is to accept, it happens in both the homes of sinners and Christians.
There are so many children that have been lead astray by their own parents. To many little boys and girls that have become the victims of needless so-called discipline, all in the name of God. It is imperative that you understand, that you Dad is the one responsible for each and every time he used you, to vent his anger and frustration. He will stand before God and give an account for each and every time he committed that sin against you, as well as God. The Bible makes it clear that there is no place for unrighteous anger, in the life of a Christian, and that an angry man stirs up dissension and commits many sins.
Every single time a father leads his child down the wrong path, he will be held accountable. A dad's job is to lead his family as Christ leads us. God gives each and every one of us as parents a guidebook, the Bible. How many children have strayed from the Christian life, because a parent chose to use God as their reason to provoke their child to anger? How many times have they lead their own child to sin against God, because instead of instilling the love of Christ in them, they instilled anger and resentment? It is impossible to have a heart consumed with anger, and not sin.
Parents, it is wrong to provoke and exasperate your children. Each time you place unreasonable standards on them, and slowly but surely destroy their self-esteem, you are sinning! Children are a gift from God, lent to us with specifications. We are to use the rod of correction in love. Each and every time that rod is raised against that child in anger, or offenses for the personal gain of the parent, you are leading your child down the wrong path. Even more than this, you are scoffing at God, throwing the precious child entrusted to you, back in his face, shattered and abused.
Young man, I have walked in your shoes, and the marks of abuse last a lifetime. God made you special and he understands your tears. He never forsaked you, no my friend, know that every single time your father chose to harm you, he cried with you! Not one time did God advocate beating or belittling you, he stood beside you, and bore with you each and every lash, and insult inflicted upon you, in his name. He's reaching his hand out to you, desiring to lead you toward the gates of heaven.
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