Pornography Addiction: Playing With Fire
by Angie Lewis 5/21/2009 / Marriage
Pornography addiction is playing with fire. If your marriage means anything to you at all then you are playing with fire every time you think about or view porn. Even if you are single it will transform your personality into something that was not meant for you to be. It is not beneficial for the mental and emotional aspect of who you are to look lustfully at another woman or man, other than the person God has blessed you with.
"Do not lust in your heart after her beauty or let her captivate you with her eyes, for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life". (NIV Proverbs 6:25, 26)
Sexual addiction causes much heartache, guilt, low self-esteem, and remorse when it is viewed. These emotional feelings will make you feel inadequate as a person. Emotionally it will drain you of all respect for people.
The written word says it all. We don't need to look anywhere else to understand our purpose and moral duty for marriage. Even if you don't believe in God and His Son Jesus, still the written word makes perfect moral sense for living. Jesus teaches us to "not even look at another with lust"? It is one of the most powerful teachings in the bible.
What Does The Bible Say?
Christ teaches us not to not even look at another outside of our marriage with feelings of desire because our thoughts are what cause immoral behavior in our lives. No one on this planet is immune to behaving sexually immoral if they allow themselves to become entangled within its lustful traps.
God knows you are worth more than a loaf of bread and this is precisely why there is so much talk in the bible about denouncing our lustful desires. Christ teaches that for a married person to even look at a woman lustfully is committing adultery with her in his heart. Are you letting her captivate you with her eyes?
How does a woman captivate you with her eyes (body)? Your mind is allowing her to captivate you. And when she does all kinds of neat tricks to keep you looking she has caught you just like an animal hunts its prey. You have now become her prey each and every time you go back and view pornography. She (porn) now has control of your body and your mind and your spirit. You are being controlled by it.
You will get burned spiritually, emotionally, physically, mentally, and psychologically. Pornography takes hold of your goodness and eventually destroys it. It deeply hurts spouses and relationships. Addiction of any kind is progressive. That means unless the user stops they will progressively become worse within the addiction.
It upsets me when naive people say that looking at a little porn is ok. It's never just a little bit! That is nonsensical. That is like giving a newly sober alcoholic a teaspoon of liquor! Here lets give a little wine to the newly sober alcoholic. How prudent is that?
"You have heard that it was said. 'Do not commit adultery.' But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart." (NIV Matthew 5:27,28)
Husband & Wife Have Obligations Toward Each Other
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. (1 Corinthians 7:3)
What are those duties? Duties are all about priorities. The first priority is putting God first in your personal life. If couples based their actions upon godly principles they would understand how important accountability is for their marriage, but as it is, they each do whatever they want, which leads to immoral behavior. This is a no-brainer.
Couples need to communicate intimately every day with each other. A wife is her husband's emotional support and a husband is his wife's. Be there for each other in every which way! Do not give your spouse any reason to feel they need praise and encouragement from anyone outside the marriage. This is what triggers porn viewing and infidelity. Couples are to uplift each other. Why give that duty to someone outside the marriage?
We all need to feel good about who we are and there is no one better to do that than the person we married. This is why God created Eve as a helpmeet to her husband. God did not want man to be alone so He created beautiful, intelligent Eve. I'm smiling.
It is your duty, as a husband to make sure your wife feels appreciated and loved. It is your duty as a wife to help your husband to feel appreciated and love. When couples stop living by the principles that were established for marriage from the beginning unpleasant circumstances will happen.
You Can Change Your Thoughts And Flee From Temptations
It is much more difficult to flee from temptation if you do not trust in the moral teachings of Jesus Christ. You do not have to "go to church" to study His Word or to pray, or to have a personal relationship with Him. Your relationship with Christ is between you and Him and no one else. He will give you the answers you need through your personal communication with Him. Humble yourselfgo to Him, and He will hold you up.
You can stop pornography from preying upon your life right now. Why allow your thoughts to control what you do if it is not really what you want to do? If you ask Christ to help you with lustful feelings and thoughts, He will! If you keep going back to lustful thoughts it is because you are not putting your trust in your spiritual Source.
Remember that the written word is your handbook, it is your inspiration and your hope, it is your encouragement and discipline, which teaches you and saves you from the world of lust and greed. Put out the fire and put the power of the written word into your hands today!
No temptation has seized you except what is common to man. And God is faithful. He will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can stand up under it.
(1 Corinthians 10:13