If the Bible doesn't say that something is wrong, does it mean it's okay? Even if it is bad?
Not every problem you have is specifically named in the Bible.
A friend asks you to go to a party where you know they will be doing drugs. The Bible doesn't specifically say "Don't do drugs!" So what do you do?
The Bible might not talk about drugs, but it does tell you that you are the temple of the Holy Ghost (I Corinthians 6:19). It also says that you shouldn't be in bondage to anything (Galatians 1:5).
Should you tattoo your body? The Bible doesn't say "Don't tattoo your body." However it does tell you not to mark your body (Leviticus 19:28).
Should you look at pornography on the Internet or in magazines?
The Bible doesn't specifically say "No," but it does say that any man who looks at a woman to lust after her has committed adultery in his heart (Matthew 5:28). And it speaks of a spirit of lust, which takes over when people watch or look at pornography.
The Bible doesn't address some subjects directly. However, it does comment on the main issues. Instead of mentioning pornography, it talks about lust. For drugs, it talks about not being in bondage to anything (Galatians 1:5).
But what do you do in a gray situation, such as when you find out your friend's boyfriend is cheating on her? Do you tell your friend and risk that she might think you are jealous or lying? Or do you keep it quiet? If she finds out you knew and didn't tell her, she could terminate your friendship. Either way, your relationship with her is in jeopardy.
This is where you have to follow a few guidelines:
Let peace rule in your heart. When you have a decision to make, get quiet and find out if you have peace about it. If you don't, don't do it! If you do have peace, go ahead. Make sure that you truly have peace otherwise you will make a mistake.
Pray about it. You don't have to get on your knees or say "thee"s and "thou"s. All you have to do is talk to God. Tell Him the situation and then wait for Him to answer. You may get a Scripture, a thought, an impression or you might actually hear God speak to your spirit. Don't do anything until you hear from God.
Consult the counsel of wise people. When in doubt, consult people who you consider to be wiseyour parents, your pastor, your teachers, your older siblings. Don't ask those people who are involved with the situation, or people who are not morally-directed. Instead seek out the opinion of someone you trust.
Ask yourself "What Would Jesus Do"? Look at the examples of Jesus in the Bible. This will give you an idea of what Jesus would have and would not have done. Next time you face a difficult situation, ask yourself what Jesus would do. If you don't know, search the Scriptures for the answer.
Follow your conscience. When your conscience pricks you, tells you not to do something, don't do it. God designed you with your own moral compass to show you right from wrong.
As you sin, though, your conscience becomes seared. It takes a consistent effort to develop and learn to listen to your moral compass again.
You have to read the Word of God to know what it is that God expects and wants from you. The Bible gives you guidelines. Things that you should and should not do. Not to take the fun out of your life but to keep you from getting into trouble.
You have to listen to your conscience, that moral compass, that lets you know wrong from right. The more you continue to ignore it and live in sin despite its warnings, its guidance becomes softer and softer.
You strengthen that voice through learning what God says is right and wrong through the reading of the Word and by following the voice's promptings.
When you give someone advice, and they repeatedly ignore you and get into trouble, eventually you will stop advising that person. If they start heeding your advice, though, you will give it to them all the more.
The same is true for your conscience. When you listen, it will advise you more.
Some people have different values than others. What might be morally wrong to one person might not be morally wrong to another. The areas that are not cover in the Bible may fall into the gray areas for others, but they may not for you. A wife, working outside the home while she has young children, maybe morally wrong for you, but that might not be an issue for another person. For someone else wrong maybe watching a movie that has sex, violence and language issues.
The Bible doesn't tell you directly what to do about every situation, but that is when you need to listen to your inner voice, the Holy Spirit within you, wait until you have peace, pray, seek wise counsel and ask yourself what Jesus would do.
It is your responsibility to learn as much of the Bible as you can so that you will be able to discern God's ways from the world's ways. Then and only then can you make decisions that are godly, true and right.
Make Proverbs 2:9 (TLB), which says, "He shows how to distinguish right from wrong, how to find the right decision every time," your daily prayer.
Annagail Lynes is a published author, pharmacy technician and starting her business as a life coach. Her work has been published in 21st Century, SeaLetter, Christian Home and School, You! and many more online and offline publications.
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