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How To Bring Intimacy Back Into Your Marriage
by Angie Lewis
10/19/2006 / Marriage
Everyday my husband and I will take a long walk together, alone, away from the children, and with no distractions of any kind whatsoever. I call these walks together special time. We do this because we dont want to lose touch with each other; we want to remain close. I believe all couples should dedicate themselves to having special time with their spouse one hour each day.
You dont have to take walks to enjoy special time. You might want to meet somewhere, for instance. That meeting might be in a caf or on a park bench. It doesnt matter where you are when you have special time, what does matter is that you make special time an intimate moment for the both of you. It is so easy to lose touch with the person we married. Dont let that happen to you and your spouse.
Let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds.
Make special time with your spouse extra loving and intimate by giving all of yourself to the person you married - be appreciative of who they are to you in the marriage. When was the last time you complimented your spouse? Let them know how much you care. It is so easy to be negative with your spouse when you do the same mundane schedule day after day. Why do we get negative? Because of the redundancy of marriage, doing the same thing all the time leads us to look at our spouse with the same boredom and negativity that we are feeling.
A great relationship requires intimate moments. And those moments need your full attention and compassion. If something else is engrossing your mind, then your spouse will not get the attention they deserve. Your spouse deserves to be treated with kindness and forgiveness everyday, not just when you feel like it.
What can special time do for your marriage? It can make it more alive, romantic, intimate, and loving. Special time is a good time to share feelings with each other and communicate productively; talk about issues that are troubling you, or new things you would like to share. Be there for each other! Be supportive of each others needs!
Carry each others burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ.
Special time together is not having sex. It can, of course, lead up to sex eventually, but special time is mostly for talking and just listening to one another as you each share a little bit of yourself with each other. Special time is not talking about the kids, school, work, housecleaning, finances or any other everyday duty and chore that can take you away from each other in the communication. It is for intimacy and closeness, but without actually having sex.
In other words, your objective during special time is to only talk about each other and what you would like to do for each other. Keep the conversation geared toward wanting to understand and appreciate the person you married. How can you do that? Listen to their feelings and what they have to say. Really listen to them. When it is your time to talk, by all means, share a part of yourself, maybe how you feel about a certain issue, and go from there. This is what intimacy is all about. You cannot really feel intimate with someone who only wants sex. Or who keeps their feelings and thoughts inside of themselves. How intimate is that? All it takes is one hour of your loving devotion everyday to make an ordinary marriage extraordinary.
Enjoy life with your wife, whom you love, all the days of this meaningless life that God has given you under the sun all your meaningless days. For this is your lot in life and in your toilsome labor under the sun. (Ecclesiastes 9:9)
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